This is part three in Rebecca Weber's Kids in Mind series on Attachment Theory. Dr Rebecca Weber is a child psychologist based in Ferney-Voltaire.
For the full version of this Kids in Mind segment on attachment, listen to the above audio.
What does positive parenting mean?
It is also known as positive discipline. This means, focus on behavior, not the person. Positive parenting focuses on our OWN behavior and managing our own emotions so that we can manage those of our kids.
What does this have to do with attachment?
Secure attachment allows for a child to manage his or her frustration and learn to develop into a healthy adult. They can also benefit from social relationships (in school, at work, in activities).
What are some principles of positive parenting?
- Help your child to manage their emotional weather pattern
- Understand WHY your child is misbehaving – what is their tantrum failing to communicate?
- Redirect attention/interest BEFORE tantrum
- Utilize explicit communication: Try saying: "It’s your brothers turn" rather than "Don’t take that from your brother."
Sounds like a change of focus for the child?
- Notice good behavior – we all love acknowledgment and positive attention
- Give limited choices – to support perceived control
- Encourage parents to play with words and consequences that feel right – there are no hard rules for doing it right.
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